Reflections, rebellions, and realignments for a Selful life.
Welcome to The Selfulist
Where ambition meets awareness, and purpose doesn’t come at the cost of peace.
Here, you’ll find a collection of unapologetically honest reflections exploring work, money, travel, identity, voice, and the quiet responsibility many of us carry.
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Personal Essays · The Freedom Factor · Power & Boundaries · Work Stories · The Selful Bookshelf
Care Without Collapse
Why The Psychology of Money Feels More Like a Mirror
A reflective read that quietly changes how you think about m oney, comfort, and enough. This is not…
The Weight of What We Don’t Say
When Persistence Pays Off: A Review of Black Cake by Charmaine Wilkerson
Solo But Not Alone
A Note on the Work
This site began as a place for exploration — writing to strengthen my craft, think out loud, and make sense of how I wanted to live and work. Over time, the questions deepened.
What does it really mean to live fully? To be financially comfortable without being consumed by money? To travel, speak up, take up space, and build a life that feels like your own?
The writing here reflects that evolution. Some pieces are earlier, some more refined — all of them are part of the same inquiry.
Today, Herbossiness holds essays and reflections on living fully, intentionally, and without apology — in the many forms that takes.
Nothing here is a finished answer. It’s a body of work in progress.