Lead Yourself First, Choose What’s True, and Make It All Make Sense Again
I’m Wanda Re’Ginae
A writer, truth-teller, and the voice behind Herbossiness.
I’m also a line-dancing, novel-loving, travel queen who finds joy in movement, whether that’s an Orangetheory workout, practicing yoga, or a flight to somewhere beautiful.
After years of doing what was expected, I’m finally in a place where I get to do things my way. But not everyone is there yet. I meet many people who still feel far from that freedom.
I continue to notice the same patterns — smart, capable people juggling careers, families, caregiving and expectations, holding it all together on the outside, but stretched thin on the inside.
We have long and deep conversations, and I see parts of myself in each of them.
For years, I checked all the boxes: career, leadership, family, success. From the outside, it looked like I was winning.
But on the inside, I felt like I was missing out on something. I was questioning myself and quietly asking, “Why do I feel so unfulfilled?”
That disconnect between doing well and feeling excited about it is what brought me here. Most of us move through life on autopilot, making decisions based on expectations, circumstances, or survival.
Through Herbossiness, I explore the questions many of us carry but rarely say out loud. The ones that surface when life no longer fits as comfortably as it once did, and we begin wondering whether there’s another way to live.
Herbossiness started as an expression of what I was thinking and feeling. It became a place where I could make sense of my own experiences and, over time, connect with others who recognized themselves in them.
Now, it’s grown into a space for people—many of them women—who are tired of being on the back burner and are beginning to question what comes next.
This isn’t about chasing more.
It’s about choosing better and moving differently.
So if you’ve ever asked yourself, “How did I get so far from me?”
You’re not alone. And you’re not too late.
Herbossiness exists as a place to pause, find perspective, and question the experiences that have shaped your life.