Embracing Growth, Evolving Relationships, and Killin’ It in the New Year
This could be you and me—two friends, a glass of wine in hand, keepin’ it real about what it takes to grow, thrive, and let go.
You: So, it’s a new year. Can you believe it? This is going to be my year—I can feel it. But I’ve also been struggling a bit. I want to grow, but I keep thinking about how it might affect my relationships.
Me: Oh, I hear you. That’s a tough one. But let me tell you something—it’s normal, and it’s necessary. Relationships evolve. People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Ever heard that saying?
You: Yeah, I’ve heard it, but is that really a thing? How do I know when someone’s season is over?
Me: Oh, it’s definitely a thing. And here’s how you know—when the relationship starts feeling more like an obligation than a connection. When you’re constantly questioning their purpose in your life or feeling drained after you’re with them. That’s a sign. Relationships should add to your life, not weigh you down. Holding on too long? That’s like wearing shoes two sizes too small—painful, unnecessary, and, let’s be honest, not cute.
You: So, what? Just let people go? That sounds kind of harsh.
Me: Not harsh—healthy. Look, when you’re growing and chasing your dreams, some people just won’t be able to keep up. And you know what? That’s not your problem. Your growth isn’t a group activity.
You: Damn. Okay, that hit me. But I feel guilty. What if I lose someone important?
Me: Listen, your dreams are not bargaining chips. You don’t have to shrink yourself, soften your ambition, or make yourself more “palatable” just to keep people around. If they can’t handle your glow-up, that’s on them. Your job is to stay true to your path.
You: That makes sense, but it’s easier said than done.
Me: Of course it is! Letting go isn’t easy, but think of it like pruning a plant. You cut off the dead leaves so the plant can thrive, right? The same goes for relationships. If someone’s not aligning with your growth, it’s better to let them go lovingly and move on.
You: So, you’re saying it’s not personal?
Me: Exactly. It’s not about being bitter; it’s about being better. Sometimes, people leave because they’re on their own journey. Or because your growth makes them uncomfortable. Either way, it’s their choice, not yours.
You: But what if I want them to stay?
Me: I get that, but ask yourself this—do they really support you, or are you just holding onto the past? The people who are meant to be in your life will cheer you on without conditions. They’ll stand beside you without you having to tone down who you are or what you’re striving for.
You: Okay, but what does this look like in real life?
Me: It looks like focus. 2025 is your year to shine. Stop chasing people who don’t see your worth. Stop holding onto relationships that feel heavy. Instead, pour that energy into yourself, your goals, and your dreams.
You: And the right people will stay?
Me: Absolutely. And the wrong ones? Let them go. Trust me, the space you create by releasing what no longer serves you will be filled with people who match your energy, your ambition, and your dreams.
You: That actually feels freeing.
Me: It is. And here’s the best part—you’re going to thrive. Growth isn’t always pretty, and it’s definitely not easy. But it’s worth it. And you are worth it.
You: Okay, I’m in. I’m ready to do this.
Me: That’s the energy I’m talking about! This new year is yours. Now, go get what’s yours, and don’t let anyone hold you back.
You: I am absolutely gonna kill it this year!
